Emotional Intelligence
Dependency-on what? For what reason?are we controlled by what we depend upon? Generally speaking-yes! we need to make a distinction between basic survival needs and other needs. Air, yes, we depend on it and it controls us. But what about dependence upon being liked by other people, or always having something to do, or being told how wonderful we are, or waiting for a girl to show up for coffee, And on and on It is natural to want, wish and hope, but there is a fine line that can creep on us all where we let go of our center of gravity and become controlled by what we want- this happens often!
it’s about what happens in us when what we develop dependence on, doesn’t happen as we expect. Do we then become lethargic or lose trust or self worth about other life issues? Here is where you take control back through a reasoning process which connects you to the bigger picture. The big picture is including a bigger you than the one that depends … There was you before and there will be you after, whether you got the house or girl friend or boyfriend or the job you wanted that does not lessen who you are! This is the time to connect to immaterial life importances and values that outlast time and circumstances.
Giving Up or Going Up
We live in very confused times where great deal of pressure is put upon the family cell and the relationship between the genders. very often what begins as a great promise with love affection and interest fades away quickly and leaves many disillusioned people.
The answer to problems is never on the external level. It is in the core where small adjustments can be made to make big changes, and this is where true long-term solutions reside., where the meaning of the words “…until death due us apart” don’t mean premature death of love and interest.
The answer is in the application of Yellow Intelligence where basic personal development changes can be made to cause great deal of stability and change.
I love Einstein’s definition of insanity – expecting different results while doing the same thing…this is indeed insanity…think about it
Comfort Noise Generation
Yellow intelligence – When people talk they need to feel accepted. The other side needs to generate comfort noise, otherwise it gets eerie for them and they feel there is no one there.
This is part of the field of confirmation- when you talk you put out energy, and that energy needs a target. Otherwise, the person that generates the energy gets the feeling that they are getting their input back-just like hearing an echo in an abyss.
People need to know where they are with others, and if they don’t, it throws the whole system off!!! So be generous with confirmation! Generate a comfort noise level that lets them know they are being listened to.
Thinking and education
The idea of perfection is not real or reasonable in any normal life. We were made to learn through our imperfections because they represent space for our next advance. The way of education today demands perfection and grades people like kettle according to an old, obsolete system that in its core divides people. The system therefore declares itself to be a judge of people, which is a primitive, condescending declaration. Mistakes are a tool for growth not for punishment! This is extremely obvious with the young generation that is a lot more intelligent than the system that claims to teach it
Strategic thinking key questions
Decision making at times of change-how to think?
What is it that you don’t yet do that if you did would change your life in a dramatic fashion?
This video is preview to The Thinking Coach website which discusses these issues in depth.
Decision Making
What is the distinction between making decisions and decision making and what is the significance of gut feelings in decision making?
Decision making- it’s an art
Do you allow your gut feelings a place in your table of decision making?
How do you change traits that always get you in trouble?
Everyone wants to change and very few are satisfied with the speed and success of their ability to change! Why do you think changes don’t seem to happen as we expect them? Is it that our expectations are unreasonable? Is it that we don’t know how to go about change? Is it that we can’t identify that we changed?…and why is it that most everyone is infatuated with change?…over to you
Seeing is believing or believing is seeing
This is a two way view of life
One that assumes that we can believe only what we see, not realizing that our vision is limited and determined by our thinking, which is extremely limited
The other approach realizes that the human capacity to believe makes things happen in the physical
What a difference between these two ways of thinking…
Decision Making- Do you listen to your gut (feeling) – Are you gut-sy (do you act on it?)
Decision Making- Do you listen to your gut (feeling) – Are you gut-sy (do you act on it?)
Greetings everyone,
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